I'm 18, and having just been through high school
I know some things about high school girls, and this current generation that
many of the people talking to you may or may not know. First off, let me also
say - you're right, girls are not objects, things to "get." But
PLEASE, everybody let the terminology GO for a minute here. Two items that are
often horribly wrong without the right information to back them up, especially
with high school aged, young, often immature, girls. Being a pick up artist is
NOT about disrespecting women, self gain, or any of that negative stuff many of
you are spouting out. Being a pick up artist is actually kind of a sour term to
describe the concept as it stands in most places. A PUA is not just a guy who
"picks up girls," or anything like that, there's an entire world to
maintaining the relationship. Now am I going to say that all PUA's are great
guys? Of course not that would be like saying that all real, creative artists
are good artists, that all doctors are good doctors. The whole thing would just
sound a bit strange, and suspicious. If you must, exaggerate a tiny bit of what
you are to get a girl to smile, but don't sit there and fake anything. Deception
lies, and trickery are not the answer. Here are a few points of advice from me:
Tip 1: Be Happy and Smile a Lot
If you are not happy here is the brutal, cold
truth: no girl is going to want to be with you. After all, would you want to be
with a girl who was miserable? This is a common relationship concept. Smile!
Smile a lot! Smiling is perhaps one of the most attractive things people do
socially, because when another sees you smile, they often register that image
with the association of their own smile, which in turn will make them feel
happy too. Laughing is also contagious, but again - don't laugh at something
you don't think is funny.
Tip 2: Make every word that comes out of your mouth purposeful and
meaningful
Do not start saying things just to break a
silence purely for the sake of breaking the silence. In the case of seduction,
the patterns and language techniques give you ample opportunity to have a
"strategic" conversation. These concepts not only apply to women,
they apply to all aspects of your social life, and will even come in very handy
for you in the business world.
Tip 3: Develop a nonverbal communication and sense of rapport before even
speaking to her.
Don't just go up the instant you see a girl -
take a moment to study her movement. Match her breathing with your own. Take
one of her mannerisms and adopt it as your own for a little bit. Play with this
process, and see what works. What this does is builds an unconscious sense of
commonality, and allows the conversation to flow both more comfortably, and
with a higher level of initial attraction. The process is called "matching
and mirroring," or sometimes just "mirroring."
Tip 4:
If the girl does not show interest in getting
to know new people, you move on instantly.
This is not true at all with adult women, and the
websites you will read on seduction do not take this antisocial or socially
retarded behavior into account. But this is something that with high school
girls and even young college girls, you may encounter. Sometimes the most
gorgeous girls you will ever meet are the ones that have had a close knit
circle of friends that they NEVER leave for years - and you're not in it. If
you want, you can stay and try to recover, but I'll warn you right now,
especially if she is around friends, they'll find a way to push you out
quickly. It's a battle you likely can't win. Most of the "popular"
girls in high school are actually a bit socially retarded. More likely, it's
their looks, their actions at some party where they were acting stupid, their
cruelty, or the guys they've dated. The girls that I would go after if I were
you are the ones that are often very close to by themselves, or totally by
themselves at lunch they will be more open to you than most of the ones that
are with their little clique of friends While I know your aim is not to be
"cool," in the common high school sense of the word, I can tell you
something else. Having a girlfriend, in the world of high school (I don't know
why, don't ask), DOES increase your level of popularity. It doesn't even matter
who the girl is, most of the time.
Tip 5: Don't ever negotiate for anything less than everything you
desire about.
Don't date a girl who has a great personality,
but you don't find attractive. And of course, don't go out with a gorgeous girl
who you absolutely hate on the inside. Find the WONDERFUL girls and spend as
much time pursuing them as you please. Maybe they're the ones with a great
reputation, maybe they're not. But if you date a girl who is wonderful in your
view, she's likely to be wonderful in the view of others and the view of your friends.
When you are already in a relationship, do not compromise.
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